Have you ever looked around ((or scrolled through Instagram)) and wondered how do some people do all of the things they do? Do you ever feel overwhelmed with the laundry, the kids, cooking, etc etc?? It’s easy to let yourself get caught up in that feeling ; next thing you know, you are feeling anxiety and unhappiness , wondering what’s wrong with you and your life..STOP!!!! I’m here to tell you that things aren’t always as they seem and you are judging your self too harshly ! BUT, there may be an area that you can improve on, and that’s SELFISHNESS. What?? Yes. IT’S OK TO BE SELFISH.
I’m not trying to brag on myself at all, I just want you to know that there is a way that you can “do all the things other people do”. I am “one of those people”. My house is picked up decently most of the time. I never pile up loads and loads of laundry. I don’t let dishes sit in the sink for days. My car never has trash in it. My refrigerator and pantry stay organized. My kids have always slept /napped/and ate well. My husband and I don’t fight, we go on dates , and we both prioritize our health and fitness. We cook our own healthy food 90% of the time. We go to church regularly. We do fun stuff with our kids and we try to teach them a lot of things through books or talks or planned activities. Oh, and we both work full time. I’m sure you are thinking by now that I’m a total snob, but , please don’t. All of these things are possible because we have realized that it’s ok to be selfish . Being selfish is often seen in a negative light, but , that’s not always the case. We say no to a lot of things. Social activities are prioritized-we don’t go to every birthday party, going away party, housewarming party, etc etc that we are invited to. We don’t volunteer for tons of activities. Just pick one thing that you can do, that fits your schedule and volunteer for that. Your time will be more productive doing that one act of charity than being a part of 5 clubs / volunteer organizations that you are running frazzled to or missing half the time. Our kids don’t participate in 3 sports at once. We’ve kind of fallen into the “one activity at a time” camp. Do one season of that , practice well, finish it out, then decide if you want to continue that or try something new. It keeps us from running crazy every weeknight to this game or that event for 2 different kids. It’s ok to say no to things.
<—- sometimes I say No to fixing my hair ?
It’s ok to serve your health and your family before you serve other people. I firmly believe that we are called to do different things for different seasons of our life. Your health is something you can never get back, it’s not seasonal, so I believe in working daily towards that journey. Your babies and school aged children are here just for a season, so I choose them over lots of social events , volunteer work, and even things like crafts / projects for my house or watching Tv / shows. That is how I have time to do all of the other things. Well, planning plays a HUGE role as well…for example, I may not go to a social event if I know that there is no other time this week that I can do my meal prepping / cleaning. If I skip on that, it will make every night of the school / work week stressful. Yes, there are times that I do go, but , I plan ahead or shift things around. Tuesdays evenings are the kids’ activities they chose, so I take that into account as well. I know this probably sounds like we are horribly rigid and don’t have much fun, but, that’s really not the case. At first, if you are transitioning to this type of lifestyle, it can be stressful, but, once you get the hang of it, it actually eliminates a lot of stress. And, we DO have time for some spontaneous activities…usually, every afternoon/ evening (besides Tuesdays) we can do something fun like walk to the park , play with a friend, make a craft, etc before beginning our bedtime routine. If you aren’t running frazzled to events that are stressing you , you are taking some time for your personal wellness, and your families’ needs, it makes for a lot more quality time when you are doing activities with your kids/ family. I also feel way happier knowing I am taking care of myself in the process.
<— Working on my fitness is what makes me feel happy. And, I’m happy for the rest of the day and able to serve my family gladly. Maybe your happy thing isn’t fitness, but , that’s ok!! Find whatever it is AND DO IT!!!!! Even if its just 30 minutes a day!!!
A kid / cuteness update 🙂 :
We are trying to be Fall Festive here in Texas , despite the hot weather ?? ☀️ Here’s a super easy and cute Halloween craft the kids did!!! ☠️
Some Fall cuties ?
Happy & Healthy Living Y’all !!!